Sleep Defense


Last night we instituted what I call “sleep defense.” It’s a little trick that we use every now and then as a last resort when Clare is giving us several nights in a row of rough sleep. I had heard that 4 months is a hard time for sleeping, but I don’t think I fully understood how hard it would be until now. We’ve had several weeks of off-again, on-again nights – Clare was waking up to eat 2 or 3 times a night instead of her usual 1 or 2 times, crying and needing to be shushed back to sleep almost every hour, or just wanting to wake up and play after her 4 am feeding (my personal favorite). We won’t even go into what a challenge naps have been. Sometimes it’s felt like all I’ve done on a given day is try to get Clare to sleep. Well, Saturday night it came to a head and J and I maybe had 2 hours of interrupted sleep each. We were in Bend and Clare decided that the pack and play, which she had slept in fairly well the night before, was not acceptable to sleep in. Every time we tried to put her down in it she would slam her heels into the ground, wake herself up and start to cry. Three hours of this… You’d think we would have figured out the system earlier but I blame the sleep deprivation. She would sleep in bed with us, however she was tossing and turning so much that *we* didn’t sleep.

So last night we did full on defense. We put an air mattress in the nursery and J took the first shift. He slept on the air mattress and got up with her until 2 am. I got blissful, uninterrupted, full REM-cycle 4 hours of sleep. At 2 Clare was hungry so I fed her and we switched places. J had the bed to himself, the fan on high and two shut doors between him and the baby, while I snoozed on the air mattress and got up with her at 5:30 am for her tantrum/feeding. The best part of the night – this morning at 7:00 we were all smiling! It’s amazing what 4 hours of continuous sleep can do to make the world right!
We’ll see what tonight brings. The sleep thing is rough. It’s made harder by all of the “sleep experts” who have conflicting advice. I’ve googled “4 month old sleep problems” more times then I can count and have read everything from that it’s my fault that my baby isn’t sleeping and if I don’t “fix her” immediately then she will have sleep issues for life to just wait it out and it will get better but nurse on demand until then. I’m going to call our pediatrician today, just to get some advice and hopefully some reassurance that it really is not my fault that Clare is struggling to sleep. I always feel better after talking to her, so it can’t hurt.
This little smile makes everything better though.
This picture was taken Saturday morning – after a decent night of sleep. She really did have a fun time in Bend – we went for a hike in the snow (on a cleared path) which she liked a lot, and she got to spend lots of time watching the dogs wrestle. That’s her new favorite thing and will make her laugh almost as much as her Daddy does.
Sitting in the Bumbo seat! We’ve noticed that Clare is a ‘watcher’ and is fairly deliberate and thoughtful (for a baby). This picture pretty much sums that up.
Mom found this dress that my Nana bought for me when I was a baby. We put it on Clare and tried to get some good pictures. Clare was more interested in playing with the lace than looking at the camera. When she did look at the camera she was more worried than anything. I don’t put her in a lot of dresses, so maybe that’s what has her worried. Still, she’s about the cutest worrier I’ve ever seen.

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